Didn't see that coming

Talk about being blindsided. What is it that makes people say, "Give it to Kim, she can handle it." That is what I am feeling right now in regards to my job. Got a difficult student? Let's send them to Kim's classroom. She and her staff can handle anything. I am very upset with my supervisor these days. Not only does she very rarely make an appearance in my classroom but most information is delivered to me by e-mail the day before something is to occur. Oh, by the way, so and so is actually in a higher grade than we thought so he's coming to your room tomorrow. And he is a two person assist in the bathroom because he is unable to ambulate from his wheelchair to the toilet independently. "Jimmy" will be coming to you room because the parents want him placed in a different classroom due to how the staff is treating him. And did I mention that he has constant bathroom accidents and the parents want him to wear regular underwear instead of incontinent supplies. Oh, and one other thing, mom was my daughter's teacher in jr. high and we are best friends. (This particular student moved back to his home district after a new teacher was assigned to that class.) This week I received an email from her on Tuesday telling me that "there will be a placement meeting for a young lady tomorrow at 1:00. I have been told she is very much like a previous student in your room. Can you make it?" My response, "Yes. What do we know about her? What grade? How old?" Her response was, "Didn't you get a referral packet?" Now, if I had gotten a referral packet would I be asking questions? Seeing that I have been burned a few times lately by this woman, I was very suspicious that she was not very forthcoming with information. I told my assistants that I hated how I was feeling because I was going into this meeting blind. I go to the meeting and am there when the student arrives. She seems very nice. She is pleasant to talk to and you can hold a decent conversation with her. My supervisor arrives and hands me a copy of the current IEP (individualized education plan). We go over the goals and I accept them and then as they are talking I begin to read the present levels of performance and boy was I in for the shock of my life. I found out why there was a behavioral specialist tied to the goals. It seems that my new student has mental health issues and is recently coming back to school after having been on home instruction due to school being an inappropriate placement for her. It seems that she has made false accusations of sexual abuse by students and staff. Not only that but when she is in a state of high anxiety and frustration, she self-injures to make the pain go away. When I informed my assistants of this they asked if she was a cutter. I told them no that she is an inserter. They both said what. I then explained to them that she had to be searched before she was allowed to go in the bathroom because she would hide objects on her person and then inserts them into private areas of her body while in the bathroom. I am going to be honest with you. I have dealt with a lot of aggressive and harmful behavior in my time but never like this. I desperately want to give this young lady a fresh start but yet I feel like I can't trust her and that I have to watch out for the other students in my class. And for someone her age to be doing something like that tells me that she has been sexually abused in the past. It just makes my heart ache. I want this to be a positive experience for her and for her anxiety levels to diminish. But I can't help but feel like crucial information was kept from me. Let's keep Kim in the dark and then spring it on her in the meeting so that she can't say anything about it. I don't want anyone to think that I don't want this student. We have been thrown curve balls before and things have turned out fine. I am just tired of finding out about things at the last minute. Tell me ahead of time and be absolutely honest and upfront with me so I can prepare properly. This girl is starting Monday and I am scrambling to have a plan of action in place. There goes my weekend. I am going to stew and fret about it until then.